My coffee table is soooo stressed- question about wood staining

I would like to refinish my coffee and end table. They were purchased in the late 90's; are currently dark in color; and are deeply distressed with 'pits' and seams. They also include hardware in places that look as though it could hold the furniture together, though I question that it actually does. This is the first time I have done a project like this! I want to refinish in a distressed looking, off-white color. Any suggestions on products to use? Any hints make this project easier or go smoothly? Thoughts on how to get/keep the stain/color from pooling in the pits of the wood? Thank you!
Coffee table
Deep pits and grooves/seams in coffee and end tables
Brass hardware on upper and lower legs of tables
Pics of room that table is in-room is bright with lots of color
  7 answers
  • Patricia Patricia on May 04, 2016
    I'd white wash it and distress it for a shabby chic look and it would brighten up the room, too.
  • Janet Pizaro Janet Pizaro on May 04, 2016
    I agree on white wash as well.
  • Nikki Nikki on May 04, 2016
    I think it would look great painted white, sand the edges and then wipe over the entire piece with a dark stain or glaze, that will give it a lighter antique distressed look. And I think keeping it a little warmer then a bright white will look great with your red sofa too.
  • Tiffani Taylor Tiffani Taylor on May 04, 2016
    Chalk paint in white, then use glaze or wax with brown hues to highlight the distressing. As for the hardware, it would probably be really nice if they were painted with an oil rubbed bronze color.
    • Nikki Nikki on May 04, 2016
      @Tiffani Taylor That is exactly what my vision was for that table too =) I agree with the oil rubbed bronze on the hardware, That is my fav spray paint for things like that yet I somehow forgot about it. lol
  • MN Mom MN Mom on May 04, 2016
    I had a coffee table like this and painted the base and legs. Then I gave the top a fresh coat of stain snd it really made a huge difference for little cost.
  • M&M Embellishments M&M Embellishments on May 04, 2016
    I love that hardware! It's all in the details! And I personally love the curved legs. Have you heard of Velvet Finishes Paints? It's not a chalk paint - goes on much easier and smoother than my experience with chalk paint. Check it out at velvetfinishes.com. Kellie is also here on HOmetalk, @Kellie from Design Asylum I recently found these paints and really love them. Another thing you might want to check out is Ceruse. One of my friends here on Hometalk, Beth H. Makemeprettyagain.blogspot has a post about it. It's very unique and I've also seen it done with a whitewashed look instead of the black.
  • Ruby77 Ruby77 on May 18, 2016
    I would paint the legs and base white but stain the top a bit darker. I would then anchor the seating group with a beautiful area rug. That is a must.