What's with all the negativity???
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CC
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When I first started on Hometalk (2 years ago) everyone was very encouraging and supportive. Lately I've noticed a lot of negative comments on different posts telling people what they did was wrong (painting furniture) or just saying they don't like it or it's not attractive... particularly on decorating posts. I'm not sure why this is going on as I don't take time to read or comment on posts I know I won't like? There is a lot of negativity in the world let's not let it dominate Hometalk and discourage people from posting.
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politeness eludes some in our society. But I have learned those that behave that way should be met with total silence. By everyone. Some people garner attention with negativity and feel entitled to be nasty. The last time I commented on the meanness it made it worse. But I have also had to think before I comment on cleaning recipes. I am a professional and see many damaging recipes. So should I not point out this will damage surfaces or make the poster uncomfortable? It is perplexing to me. Many people read for advice and many end up with damage. I am leaning towards not saying anything anymore. So what do you think?
Sherrie
on Apr 01, 2014
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I agree, I think that the best response is absolutely no response. When you respond as I found it it gives them a reason to feel justified and to yell louder. If everyone would totally meet those people with silence I have a feeling they would get the idea they ugliness won't be tolerated. The day I said something it turned into a screaming match. I felt absolutely crazy for even participating in it. I won't do it again. I am wondering if I do sound rude when I point out the cleaning problems? After this happened I had to wonder if I was also one of those rude posters. I am really curious now where the line should be drawn or how to say it politely without creating any ill feelings to the original poster. I would love other opinions of how those I have posted and regular readers feel? I am open to it and really want to know how others feel about this. Thanks for posting this it also has bothered me for awhile.
Sherrie
on Apr 01, 2014
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be glad you don't see our local City page on facebook. It had to be shut down people starting being so nasty. If I see a Hometalk post I don't necessarily agree with, I scroll down to the next one, instead of leaving a comment.
Becky P
on Apr 01, 2014
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Hi @CC , This is Marcy from Hometalk Support. We appreciate your concern and encourage you to send concerns directly to our support team by emailing us at: support@hometalk.com. We have been keeping a closer eye on comments being made to make sure they are inline with our guidelines. While we welcome constructive criticism and do not seek to censor negative comments, we will do so when we find the tone of comments to be unfriendly and not constructive to the poster. (See our guidelines here: http://www.hometalk.com/about/content-guidel...). We really appreciate you helping us keep Hometalk the wonderful and supportive community that it is!
Marcy
on Apr 02, 2014
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yes I have had some downright mean and rude comments on some of my posts...it almost made me not want to post anymore. I would never dream of commenting on something in a negative way...we need kindness and to be gracious with one another in this world...there is enough negativity and ht should not be a place for that. People have lost there civility and manners, not all but more and more lately. I say if you don't have something nice or kind or helpful to say then better to say nothing at all. Beauty is seen differently by each of us....that's part of what makes our world great......we all have different styles and are unique in some way.
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on Apr 04, 2014
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Unhappy people hurt people. If they are miserable they want everyone else to be too.
Tamara
on Apr 04, 2014
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I am non-celiac gluten intolerant. Even the topical things cause blisters and ulcerations...along with a host of other symptoms. So man Docs say that topical shouldn't but it does! Also beware of dairy, soy & corn. They are sister proteins to gluten (like twins) your body does not recognize the difference & reacts as if it's gluten. So glad you found the recipe. I have called/emailed so many companies. So hard to find products...also try Hugo Naturals for lotions and soaps...shampoos (though I don't like their shampoos), or Alafia Lavender or unscented Shampoo for GF. I compiled a list on my blog that I add to when I find something good. http://hervintajesoul.blogspot.com/2013/11/wfgfsf-products-i-use.html I am not an affiliate marketer and make no money whatsoever from my blog...it's something I enjoy sharing it's a hobby. :D
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on Apr 04, 2014
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There was another blogger I saw behave what your describing so I left her thread. As much as I admired her work I didn't admire her behavior. The funny thing is some of these people that do this are very normal, nice people in everyday life. It's really not so funny and it's hurtful when your targeted. I have only saw this a few times. Most of the people are really supportive and I am going to make sure I am one of them. : )
Sherrie
on Apr 04, 2014
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many of us have sadly noticed the awful unhelpful and rude comments being made and we should all just totally ignore them and always try to thank people for the nice things they say.I always feel i want to defend a poster against spiteful negative remarks some are really cut you up comments
Felicity Woodruffe
on May 23, 2014
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