Ever throw a paint roller across the lawn...but wanted to throw it at your spouse?
We're tackling the big project of painting the exterior of our house. We've shared some tips for how to do that without ruining your marriage (learned the hard way) on our blog: http://www.thissortaoldlife.com/2012/07/19/...
Are you kidding? Any couple that has ever worked together have had these moments! HA! The thing about big projects is you get weary (worse than just being tired) and the nerves get a bit frayed! The secret to big projects is to work 3-4 days and then take a day's rest. Just take a long bath, sleep late and then go out to dinner (does not have to be fancy). You will be surprised how much smoother the project goes after that. We have worked together 51 years so I know this as fact!!!!
Nope. Can't say that I have. My husband and I have built three homes, bought and sold another, moved across country more times than I want to remember and have been working on finishing our current home for over eight years now and I've never wanted to throw a paint roller at him. At least not to my recollection. ;^)
It's not been all be wine and roses that's for sure, but before we married my beloved realized
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men and women do not think alike and we certainly don't speak the same language. It may sound the same, but words and how they are said have different meanings to males and females. Luckily I can draw and he can do mock ups of our ideas. We have each learned, for the most part, to be patient with each other. Oh and always laugh. A sense of humor about your differences and especially yourself really helps keep the desire to toss things at each other to a minimum.
To heck with that, Becky. I love my handy husband but too many times we have agreed to x and it turned out y, with the insistence that it was Y from the get go. We draw pictures and write it down and I make copies. Cheaper than a divorce attorney. JK...mostly.
Funny you said that Phil. I've said that a few times to my hubby in the last couple days. I have to say that your wife is very lucky. Hopefully she says "yes Dear" to you just as often.
Oh Yes! But It's getting better Now that we are older and wiser to one another . We know what pushes each other buttons So we stay away from those Grey Area..LOL!
Great advice, everyone: Take breaks, laugh, illustrate and document, be sensitive to words and buttons! :-) Since I wrote that post, we've made a real effort to work on things together or side-by-side--and it's amazing what a difference that is making. Can't do it all the time, but sure need to do it some of the time.
Sounds like you got it Rita. It's not always easy, but life is short and it's much more pleasant when your happy. A good marriage takes work on both sides.
It's not been all be wine and roses that's for sure, but before we married my beloved realized ...»