Co-operation- How can I inspire kids to help around the house?

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How can I get my Children to help around house?.They are respectful young adults 14 - 19 age group.They do what they have to , in a minimal sort of way.That extra 10 % would be so sweet.

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  • Janice Janice on Jul 21, 2017
    Take away their electronics. As a reward for helping----they get them back
  • Cro26387441 Cro26387441 on Jul 21, 2017
    Tell them straight out you need help and although you appreciate their effort you need them to do: X,Y,Z also. Stress you are a team and their help is not only wanted but needed to give everyone some free time. Then if they do try harder don't get too picky about how they do it to. Life is short so don't sweat the small stuff. :-)
  • Dysko7710 Dysko7710 on Jul 21, 2017
    We give our kids an allowance and my husband bases it on the difficulty of work done and how well it was done. That being said, we don't buy our kids whatever they want, so the allowance is for them to buy things they want (and even sometimes need, like a new pair of sneakers), that way they are learning how to work to earn money, budget it and that sometimes money has to go to things we need and not just fun things we want. Because they know they must earn money to get things they want/need, they tend to volunteer more and do a better job to make better money.
  • 2dogal 2dogal on Jul 21, 2017
    14 - 19 is an independent age. If you can't talk to them into helping more, I bet telling them you will cut back 10% on what you do may be an eye opener.
    As an example, if they leave their clothes on the floor when you want them to put dirty clothes in the hamper, stop picking them up off the floor- when they have no clean clothes, they'll learn quickly.

    I believe you MUST be very specific in what you want them to do. If you are too general in your expectations, it won't get done.

  • Sarah Barganier Sarah Barganier on Jul 21, 2017
    That is part of the parenting exercise, to teach them that they need to do things on their own. I find small rewards to help best when my grandkids do something that I did not ask them to do (works best on the younger ones, just a hug and kind words letting them know how much they helped).
    I have found that teaching anyone to be a "self starter" is hard work.
  • Ohiorn Ohiorn on Jul 21, 2017
    If any of the kids drive, make it contingent upon completing their chores completely. Try to instill in them that they to know how to properly clean and do chores as they need to learn these skills for college and when they are on their own. If they have allowances, no $$ if chores not done.
  • Peg Peg on Jul 21, 2017
    If the things needed done are extra instead of normal routine chores, you could use a reward system of some type. Make it a contest with a reward.
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