Asked on Jun 13, 2018

How do you deal with nothing looks great enough. That's my big problem

Louise
by Louise
icon I love to do crafts of most kinds and trying new things, but almost everything I do I feel it's not good enough. I started quilting classes and have not even gone back in 2 weeks because they tell me I'm doing so great for a beginner and really for some9ne that has never even tried to sew before. I don't feel anything is good enough even to share. But everything I make people want and say they love but I won't make them anything because I feel I could have done something different. It always looks great in my head but doesn't come out that way. I do believe in my self and others but not what I put out there. Help Here's my last project I just made. I thought the rocks were okay but not sure now.

  10 answers
  • Ann Ann on Jun 13, 2018

    You seem to be your worst critic. Listen to the praise you’re getting from the experts and ask them how you might make it better. They’ll be flattered you asked their opinion, and you’ll continue to learn. Nobody is born an expert at anything.

  • AmAtHome AmAtHome on Jun 14, 2018

    Sometimes I feel the same way, but I find that either changing how/what I PLANNED to make into something that works the way it came out is good - and sometimes better. We are usually very critical of ourselves, but I think your fairyscape is adorable!

  • Johnavallance82 Johnavallance82 on Jun 14, 2018

    Always remember, that if you think you could have done better, you probably will next time.....

  • Charna Charna on Jun 14, 2018

    Hi,

    You are not alone, everyone feels that way.

    If you can say to yourself;- There will always be, one person who is better

    than me, as well as, There will always be, one person who is worse.

    That way you are walking through life observing, learning, and practicing.

    My advice would be, look at what others have done, and join Pinterest.

    Keep track of all the crafts, that catch your eye. Eventually, you will be

    motivated to try it. Start simply, because if it has too many steps, you may feel discouraged. Have you thought of going to a class?

    here is a site you may enjoy, loaded with many types of crafts, sewing jewelry making (tassel earrings are trending) etc.

    https://www.favecrafts.com/

    good luck, hope we meet up again,

    My name is Charna

    website, wallswearart.com


  • Sandy Slade Sandy Slade on Jun 14, 2018

    Hi, I also understand this feeling. I now try to convince myself that what I have done is my individual and alternative take on it and it is not going to be exactly the same as any one else's as no person is the same as another so appreciate your individuality and your own take on things. I personally love things that are different and not perfect as that is life and trying to have everything perfect is stressful for me anyway. Good luck I am still practicing this in my life but I am sure we will all eventually get there x

  • Jen Jen on Jun 14, 2018

    My mother used to say "A man on a galloping house would never know the difference." and she never once had someone gallop by and say something was not good enough. She did so many things, that it was said she could fix anything from a broken heart to the break of dawn ,and we held her to it. All of us 11 kids. It truly is in the eyes of the beholder, you have to believe the beholders eyes are right, and maybe you need some pink glasses to see the beauty of your work. Don't put your work down.

  • Colleen McAllister Colleen McAllister on Jun 14, 2018

    Well, you sound like me, and from the photo you craft like me. The little rock thing is cute, but you want better. My advice? Keep adding rocks, but I would avoid the colors. If possible take the outside rim of rocks off. Replace them with matching rocks or even smoother stones in the same natural color. Filll on any larger holes with the colored pieces. Maybe stick some fake pieces of greenery here and there. You have a great start!

  • Happy Days Hometalker Happy Days Hometalker on Jun 14, 2018

    Everyone seems to have an opinion, ignore the ones you don't like. If you enjoy quilting, keep going, it makes no difference what anyone else thinks or says. In other words do it for your self and enjoy what you make. Have some fun.

  • Patti Nicholas Patti Nicholas on Jun 27, 2018

    Let’s take your quilting for an example. If everyone (like the teacher and EXPERT) is telling you your doing great for a first time quilter, BELIEVE them. But remember you are a BEGINNER. Ya know the old saying you have to learn how to crawl before you walk? Well you are crawling. Have you spent your whole life being able to do everything perfectly the first time? No, of course not, that’s ridiculous. The amazing finished projects you see on here and on other DIY sites are not usually first attempts. Most of the stuff I post are 3rd or 30th attempts. I’ve been building furniture and renovating furniture for decades, two years ago I finally created a piece I was 100% satisfied with for the FIRST time and I worked on it for weeks. It’s a fantastic repurpose of an old, solid black, retail gun display case and a nasty, old scrap wood built cabinet into a beautiful, driftwood looking bathroom display storage unit with a solid cabinet on the bottom and glass on top and it’s beautiful...

    ... then I cracked a piece of glass moving it into place. Ya know what? The glass is still cracked, I see it every day a dozen times and I’m still 100% satisfied with the piece because of its defects. Now it also has an interesting story and when people mention the cracked glass I have an opportunity to tell them the story of rehabbing and building this piece. So basically give yourself the chance to learn and grow and become an expert before expecting perfection. Then when perfection doesn’t match the picture in your head, adjust the picture. Only nature is perfect, the rest of us are still learning.

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    • Patti Nicholas Patti Nicholas on Jul 14, 2018

      This beautiful and if you really really don’t like it, I’ll gladly send you my addres. It would look great in my house.

  • Katie Katie on Jun 28, 2018

    Obviously you're not alone in your feelings! We all have them. Just try to relax and enjoy the things you do--while you're doing them. If the results don't match your mind's eye, well. . .maybe the next one might. Enjoy your creative urge. Listen to your muse.

    • Louise Louise on Jul 13, 2018

      Wow , you people are great! 🤗 I feel a lot better and yes I'm going to start doing more things. Not just crafts but thing for my new home I'm looking for. Hugs