Mr Anonymous
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Asked on Jun 21, 2019

How do I clean out my basement?

Mar43158335Rebecca TaylorTinyshoes
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My 26 year old bought the “Hope & Change” slogan but is still clinging to the Obama poster and living in my basement, rent free. Mom does all the cooking, cleaning and laundry.I’d like to turn the basement into my own little man cave, but I’m stuck with a liberal-minded socialist kid who won’t move on.i need some helpful advice, please!🤦🏻‍♂️

5 answers
  • Ask them to pay rent! :)

  • Nancy
    on Jun 25, 2019

    Give him a reasonable date to get his own place and stick to it. You're not doing him any favors. Just enabling him.

  • Tinyshoes
    on Jun 25, 2019

    Mr. A....I agree with rent...if there doesn't seen to be any idea that there is HOPE for CHANGE that would be your best route!

  • Rebecca Taylor
    on Jun 25, 2019

    Hi there, some times it takes some tough love so you may have to demand that he pay rent or move out. This whole everything should be free bull does not work. I know it is hard but you either have to do it or suck it up and leave things as they are. My son just went through this with his son and he didn't give him a choice. Now he has a job and his own place. Keep on him and annoy him to the point that he has to listen. My son interrupted my grandson constantly. Don't make it easy for him. Stop washing his clothes and making his food. He has to learn to be a grownup. Good luck.

  • Mar43158335
    on Jun 25, 2019

    Any good socialist should support the “from each according to their ability, to each according to their need” slogan.

    Your “kid” is not a kid anymore. You now have 3 adults in your home, one much younger and more able bodied than the others. A respectful kitchen table sit down talk is needed regarding chore division. (Get your wife to face it- once you two die, he’d BETTER be capable of washing and feeding himself! Best to start now.). Yard work and errands sound like added chores to consider. Ease him into the idea of self care and then shared care over a set schedule. Cooking will be the hardest learning curve but each of you making dinner twice a week will even the load After all, that’s “fair”, right?

    I assume his job pays poorly still or student loans are a huge burden. Having a one hour sit down talk, all 3 of you, with a CERTIFIED financial planner - call the CFP Association - who works on a pay scale and NOT on a commission will help all of you get your life goals out on the table and in the open. We did it when my 80 yr old Mom was running into financial issues. Made her feel in control again. Yes, it’ll feel odd to talk money with your kid. Once he sees that HIS financial future could include supporting you, even via taxes to his hoped for socialist gov’t, he may think allowing the old man to save up for retirement isn’t such a bad idea after all. And a financial planner can more easily bring up the bugaboo topic of rent.

    Good luck on your man cave.

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