How can I keep my apartment from smelling of pot and cigs?

If you are in a condo isn't there a condo association for your problem. You could call Neighborhood legal services and see if there is anything they can recommend for you.

Wow you have a very difficult situation. I would actually advise having a talk with the neighbor, but would encourage you to have a male relative who is young and healthy (if possible, or a male friend) accompany you. Appeal tot the tenants better nature. Other than that maybe contact a medical facility about how to protect yourself and your husband from the bad effects of their unhealthy habits. Good luck, this is a tough one.

Well we did try to talk to her but she was not receptive. We told her we would like to talk but she said she was NOT interested and shut the door !! It was weird because she came outside and hollered up to us on the balcony. She said we were walking too heavy and my husband told her we put down carpetting and area rugs and that we would also like to talk and then she said that and went inside and slammed her door !!! She is not a kid, she is probly 50 . Yes I will talk to my doctor. Imagine when my pastor and his wife came over to bless our new house and his wife tactfully told me she smelled it. lol Thanks for your help Emily !!!

Since I am in CA and is legal here this is going to be an issue here soon too. Some condo associations have become "smoke free" compounds similar to hotel and motel rules and regulations. However you are entitled to "Quiet Enjoyment" and your HOA should back you up and not the renter. The lady is doing herself a disservice by her childlike attitude and exactly why people don't care for "potheads." If I were you, I would approach your HOA and see what they intend to do. I would also contact your local HUD office and see if they can assist. Read these and see if it helps.

https://www.landlordology.com/implied-covenant-quiet-enjoyment/

https://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/quiet-enjoyment-laws.html

https://definitions.uslegal.com/q/quiet-enjoyment/

Last resort, hire an attorney.

This is a tough situation! Nothing like a bad neighbor can have you feeling on edge and like you've lost control over how you live in and enjoy your own home! I’m so sorry you are having these troubles. It’s very strange to me that this smell is so intrusive in your home if it’s not coming in and out through open windows so I would consider looking into the venting and ducts as well. Another option, if you haven’t already tried, is to pen a thoughtful letter explaining your situation, apologizing for anything she’s been upset by (even if you have absolutely nothing to be sorry for) appeal to her better nature, without any hint of judgment regarding her lifestyle, and offer to cooperate on your end regarding her complaints even if they aren’t valid. Personally I would rather humble myself, be kind vs being right, than escalate things until it’s really difficult to have peace in your own space. I know this is making you really unhappy and I don’t blame you one bit, but renting or not she is also entitled to live as she chooses in her home and hopefully a kind letter will have her feeling like cooperating with you and behaving more as an adult in this situation should. You may want to leave it taped to a window fan with a bow and ask her to please use it when she’s smoking. That being said, you and I know you shouldn’t have to spend one dime of your money on a solution or your valuable time dealing with this, but if it helps or works, it’s easier and cheaper than most alternatives. If the idea of trying this is difficult after the way she’s behaved (been there myself!) try thinking of it as winning the war and if you do does it matter how you did it? I wish you all the best, and again am sorry you’re having to deal with this.