How can I make or decorate an urn?

https://www.usurnsonline.com/cremation-urns/make-cremation-urn/

I purchased an absolutely beautiful brass urn for my Dad for under $100 dollars that was delivered to my home in days. It was engraved and it sits on my credenza. (I blocked out his personal information for this photo). There ar literally thousands to pick from online. Just type in cremation urns online. Any color any size any shape any price.

Cathy: Well! that is certainly thinking ahead!

https://www.greenmeadowmemorials.com/how-to-make-a-diy-cremation-urn

This isn't a strange request Cathy. It is a very thoughtful request that your family will appreciate when the time comes. Losing a family member gives us all time to pause and reflect on things we need to take care of for ourselves. Condolences to you for the loss of your mother.

Cathy...So sorry for the loss of your mother but you can purchase many urns many different places. Try Google and look at the many sites. Good luck and I think you are taking a really good step for your son. Also I might suggest that you purchase a notebook and write your ideas and notes to him. My mother had everything written in a notebook for me and my brother. She even had the obituary written for the newspaper and the entire service. She wrote names of songs and music she wanted also. She told us about this notebook and exactly where to find it many years prior to her death. To some people it may sound morbid but my mother believed in being prepared and so much of that was my life and the way she was and was just more reason to love her. God bless you and your son and I think you are a very caring mother...just as mine was!

I'll make one for you. I have made Life Celebration Urns for others. I make very large vessels throwing them on my posters wheel. Contact me and lets talk.

So sorry for the loss of your mom. At least you can learn from past experience. Visit a Wills and Trusts attorney to get your affairs in order. Add your son to all of your accounts with rights of survivorship. In addition, you will need: 1. A Will, 2. A Trust, 3. Advanced Health Care Directive in case you are incapable of making any health care decisions on your own behalf. Tinyshoes has the right idea too. My parents were the same way. Every detail was addressed, yet they provided a great amount of leeway on how to handle their services and a few details about their possesions. Now as to the urn issue. We used Neptune Society for their cremation. We looked at what was offered, and they were nice, no doubt about that, but way overpriced and we were not going to pay more for the urn than it cost to cremate them. My dad passed first, I looked on line and my mom didn't want to buy anything she couldn't see in person. So I went shopping. We ended up at Home Goods and found a beautiful ginger jar - for $40. Sold! We considered purchasing two, but she decided against it and left it up to me to choose hers when the time came. And when it did, I headed back to Home Goods and found something I knew she would like. Their final wishes were to have their ashes scattered in the ocean, along with all the pets ashes we have. That still hasn't occurred as my brother isn't ready. He has mom and dad, and I have all the pets. Honestly it has been decades and I am going to push this year to complete the process. When family is grieving over the loss, it's hard to make decisions, you are very smart to address everything now and discuss with your son. Wishing you the Best! 🤗

I’m sorry for your loss. When I was looking at urns with one of my relatives at the funeral home, they wanted $350 for one that I later found on Amazon (same exact one) for $58 and free shipping! At $58, my time and materials would be more than that. So look around on line.

I also learned that Catholics do not allow the spreading of the ashes nor separation of the ashes into smaller urns.

Since Episcopalians have similar practices, I would check and see what other religions have this practice.

I had to ask the Priest, Why? I’ll share the answer if anyone is interested.

Hello there,

It is always a shock when we face the death of someone we love, and even if you have or they have prepared and made their wishes known or taken out an insurance policy, chosen everything for themselves down to the coffin, someone in the family will want something they feel is more appropriate as was the case when my Mother died. My sister insisted on a more lavish funeral for her and I had to meet half the costs. I did not begrudge the money, although it not easy to find as it helped my sister come to terms with her death.

A Funeral home should be able to help with an Urn or you could buy one of your own choosing and stipulate it should be used for your ashes when the time comes.

It could be made from whatever you wish. Keep an eye out for the right one..........but don't be in a hurry , take your time.