How can you get your spouse to agree to redecorate a room?

Cynthia P
by Cynthia P
Our house is stuck in the 1980s in the kitchen and dining room. My husband does not want to update it even a little bit. Help!
  12 answers
  • Linda Leath Linda Leath on Jun 12, 2017
    I had the same issue. I took my husband to a friend's house that is just like ours. He talked to the husband who gave him tips and tricks to do the work.
    Hubby liked the other house so much, he agreed to do the work. Also, I took him out to price materials; kept the price low and the work easy.
    We are all done now. Hooray

  • Judy Judy on Jun 12, 2017
    I would ask this group, the question of how to update or decorate a small area. When this is done, then ask for the other areas. One suggestion-the stove area, 2) then the window area, and 3) a area of work, that is next. These are just suggestions, and hopefully, when he sees one making a huge diff., then he may chime in too, and encourage you to do the next area. I have no idea where the kitchen window is in your kitchen, tho this may be changed, with just a change in side curtains, and a netted sheer., just change the colors often, for a diff in colors. Hoping this helps you, best wishes, I truly understand, J.

  • Nancy Turner Nancy Turner on Jun 12, 2017
    Start mentioning things that really need to be done, like the paint or wall paper is starting to show wear. You could even find where the wallpaper is coming loose( just loosen that loose corner or seem a little more so he sees it every time he goes into the room, or if some paint is chipping or wearing down, make the spot a little worse so it is noticeable. My mom was lucky, my dad gave my mom a budget each year for any improvements she wanted to do and even included enough to get someone to do it if necessary. The minimum she got to use was usually about ten thousand a year, not that she used all that much of it, but it would allow her to replace carpet, paint, wallpaper and furniture if she wanted to. Lucky lady, huh!

  • Judy Judy on Jun 12, 2017
    Someone has suggest Goo Gone, and WD40, tho I am not familiar with the first one, tho you can try it, best wishes, J.

  • Karen Gravelle Karen Gravelle on Jun 12, 2017
    Start it yourself. Let your husband see you perusing catalogs or store flyers for ideas. He may think you want to completely gut the room, when all you have in mind are several smaller changes. Communication is going to be key. Maybe he's concerned about the expense. Ask if you can do some updates within an agreed-upon budget. Even a couple hundred dollars can make a difference, if you do the work yourself (maybe you have a girlfriend that would find it fun to help). Order new curtains or drapes or blinds, whatever you like. Consider having the dining chairs recovered. Choose new cabinet hardware, just be sure to measure the distance between the holes, so no new holes need to be drilled. Maybe replace the inside wood on a couple of upper cabinets with glass (there are many choices of glass). If I start a project that I know I can't do myself (like changing electrical fixtures) my husband steps in at that point and completes it. Have fun together!

  • Dottie Ann Dottie Ann on Jun 12, 2017
    Tell him it's either the living room or his garage, he'll get on board!

  • Tes25093325 Tes25093325 on Jun 12, 2017
    I agree, this is just what I do...

  • Denise Denise on Jun 12, 2017
    I agree with Karen's suggestions. I do not consult my husband about redecorating though. I just start doing it and keep the receipts to show him how inexpensive a few changes are.

  • Linda Linda on Jun 12, 2017
    Find out what he is afraid of: the cost? the mess? the time involved? or that he will have the bulk of the work? If you can find out where his objections, you can reason with him about each of them.....Hope this helps!

  • Jody Price Jody Price on Jun 12, 2017
    Break something.😊

  • I went out and bought my own house and did work on it myself. He came around pretty quick after that. Now a rental house.

  • Sharon Sharon on Jun 12, 2017
    Tell him the house is losing value due to being 30 years out of date.....its easier to keep a house up to date to maintain its value.