What metal paint goes over old glossy paint and stays?

As always, it's in the preparation. You need to wash thoroughly with TSP that you can get in the paint department. It will clean the cabinets and degloss the shiny paint. Make sure any chips are sanded smooth. I would use a paint specifically made for metal. It will say so on the can.

litely sand and use rust inhibiting spray paint

Your best bet is to either lightly sand or use a chemical to remove the old gloss so new paint sticks. You can get good advice in the paint dept.

You need to lightly sand the old paint to remove the gloss, than spray paint... Do it all outside...

Scuff sand with 120 grit paper, clean with TSP. I paint all metal cabinets with pre-catalyzed epoxy from Sherwin Williams. Its low odor and cleans with soap and water...you will love it. Use a 4" mini roller with short nap it will lay out very smooth.